Date: February 21, 2008
"Speaking of confessions.... how much do you reveal in your relationship. I hung out with my friend and her family last Christmas day in UK. We started conversing with her uncle and his friends and this issue came up. He said it is advisable for ladies to always let a guy know their entire past so nothing will come as a surprise in future. Quoting him, if u have always been a BT phone book and now you want to be a dedicated line, let him know. This is to avoid him realizing you have dated half of the area code....... I really don’t know how much you should say. People say what you don’t know won’t hurt you, so should you keep some things back? Personally, i always want to know everything that has happened before i came into the picture and vice versa. I don’t know if that is healthy......."
Today: 13th July, 2011
I DO NOT WANT TO KNOW
Over Three years ago, i wrote that excerpt. I was of the school of thought that i will really appreciate if i knew everything about my partner's past and vice versa.
Now i can say with a full conviction that i do not want to know. Oh wait a minute, i think i just got my first relationship conviction.
Anyway, i am more matured and i have learnt that it doesn't matter. I don't want to know how many women you dated before me, and all those revelations that come with it. If you want to know about mine, i will gladly tell you. If you volunteer yours, i will listen but i won't actually go out of my way to ask you.
I was at the gym this morning and while trying to draw up my last few energy on the stairmaster, John Legend's Number One came on.
For a minute, i was transported to the night he performed that song at the Rodeo and i remembered the gorgeous shirtless hunk he transformed to on stage....swoooon. Anyway, on that evil stairmaster, The part where he said
"Now who is she?struck me. I don't want to know. Now i am not saying if my man is cheating on me, i don't want to find out. What i don't want to know is the details or whatever happened.
What's her name?
You don't need to know about everything"
Does this make me naive? Do you think i should be interested in knowing my partner's past and details before me? Am i more matured now or was i wiser back then?